ConstantCommentary® Vol. I, No. 10, December 11, 1997

So Sue Me . . .

by Mike Jasper


Older women need younger men

Long ago in a wiser age, an Indian tribe once employed a unique and enviable marital system: a young tribesman -- no older than 21 years of age -- married a woman no younger than 35. The marriage lasted about 20 years and ended with the death of the spouse (which, of course, is how all good relationships end).

After a period of mourning, the Indian brave -- now a ripe 41-year-old -- took a new wife some 15 to 20 years his junior. When he died, his 40-year-old widow took a young stud for her husband and continued the cycle. In this way, the elders would teach the young and the youth?

The youth weren't wasted on the young. Not in that tribe.

It may be a system whose time has come again. More and more you see older women with younger men. What's caused this phenomenon? Is it a testament to the increased independence of women? Is it the result of their newly found political and economic powers?

Or did they just now figure out that young sinewy flesh, healthy tans, and steel-belted erections were a good thing?

Hard to say. Age is largely a state of mind, although only people over 40 say that. I'm over 40. But if I met the right woman I like to think I could premature ejaculate again.

Maybe women seek younger men because there aren't enough single men in the over-35 category. Or maybe the older men are seeing younger women. Or maybe there's just a shitload of young guys out there. Do the math. There's no war, hence no draft, therefore a surplus of men under the age of 30. Supply and demand economics have once again influenced the dating market.

Me? I'm all for older women and younger men. I endorse it, applaud it, would pay good money to watch it. Older women who date younger men likely will find both advantages and disadvantages with the arrangement

I'd be more then happy to list them for you:

  • Younger men can often orgasm four or five times in one night -- often within 20 minutes time.
  • Younger men usually have no problem producing an erection -- and do so without the benefit of sexual aids such as Ben Gay or doorjambs.
  • Younger men who go after older women are often more mature than other men their age -- just make sure they don't drink beer with your son.
  • Younger men are generally better looking than older men -- they might be better looking than you.
  • Younger men are more likely to tell other younger men all about you. In a few months, you'll have truckloads of younger men to choose from.
  • Younger men are easy to find. They congregate at discos, night clubs, hamburger stands, and high school parking lots.
  • Many younger men have tight, rubbery skin and lean, flexible muscles. They enjoy an endless amount of energy and stamina. Try not to hurt yourself.
  • Younger men don't usually have a lot of baggage from past relationships, so they'll be more than happy to carry yours.
  • Younger men are obsessed with sex, just like older women.
  • Younger men tend to be squeamish about licking pussy, so make sure you use good strong knots.

If you are a younger man, here are some of the advantages and disadvantages of being with an older woman. Listen:

  • Older women tend to be more possessive than younger women. Think well on this before you allow yourself to be handcuffed to her bed.
  • Older women have more money to spend on you, but they will bill you for it if you try to get out of the relationship.
  • Older women often have young daughters who will no longer consider you fair game, unless you live in Los Angeles.
  • Older women know lots and lots of lawyers.
  • Older women can often come four or five times in just half an hour -- like you.
  • Older women often have young sons who will no longer consider you fair game, unless you live in San Francisco.
  • Older women can teach a younger man many new and exotic sexual techniques, which will come in handy when you finally return to younger women.
  • Older women can be very demanding, but they usually carry their own vibrators.
  • Older women often want to take control during the sexual act. Let them.
  • Older women are more likely to have read this column than you, you illiterate swine.
  • Older women may become unusually possessive if the affair endures beyond three or four encounters, so never give them your real name.

I am no longer a young man, since I'm well over the age of 35. The good news: like many of us, I got better with age. Just not at sex.

But I can remember being a younger man and a lover of older women. The secret? Start at an early age.

If you are a younger man and you're interested in taking advantage of your youthful window of opportunity, here's how to meet and seduce an older woman.

  • Never, ever admit to an older woman that you've seen the movie The Graduate.
  • Hang around boutiques and outdoor cafes. Also a good way to meet gay men. Don't be alarmed. Gay men attract more women than Harlequin romances.
  • Always wear a white shirt (for purity), dark slacks (for maturity) and an open collar, no tie. Older women LOVE waiters.
  • Never ask if she's married. She'll feel self-conscious no matter how she answers.
  • Let her do the talking. Be polite. Answer her questions briefly and concisely. Stare at her breasts, lick your lips and see if she looks for the bulge in your slacks. Don't worry if you're not hard yet. If she's looking for a bulge, she'll find something.
  • Tell her she's very attractive, but never, ever add "for your age."
  • If she brings up the subject of age, tell her it doesn't matter to you. Tell her it's the person that counts. Lie if you have to.
  • If things reach an awkward standstill, blurt out "God, I'd like to know you better." She'll be charmed by your ingenuousness.
  • Then again, maybe she won't be.

In fact, all my advice sucks. Just wing it. Odds are she'll want you just because you're young.

Above all... wear sunscreen.

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STANDARD DISCLAIMER: This column aims to be funny. If you can read anything else into it, you're on your own. Copyright 1997 by Mike Jasper.